I hope you're all enjoying your weekends. It's almost Sunday here in Californian so that means it's time for a little Sunday school. Please do me a favor and share your life lessons in the comments below, or even better, link up with Mariah, Miriam and I. So what did life have to teach me this week? Let's get right to it.
I'm a weekend blogger. I write all my posts, read all of your posts and respond to e-mails, on the weekends. You probably already know that though because instead of getting 1 comment from me here or there, you get like 3 at once :). Blogging didn't start out that way, but I realized this week that it's been like that for awhile now. My darn jobs getting in the way of my hobby!
Holidays and occasions aren't the time to speak to the people you don't speak to. You might not know this, but I don't communicate with my parents. Well intentioned people who know this to be the case are always asking me if I'll see them when the holidays roll around. This weekend, "so are you going to see your dad"? Um no, if and when I decide that our relationship is something I want to pursue it won't be on some holiday or occasion because it's expected. It will be because I actually want to connect with them.
Marriage is all about compromise, but we all know that already don't we? That doesn't stop us from wanting to get our way. Dar and I have these power struggles from time to time. When we're buying a house (I want a small condo, he wants a house with land. When we decide to move to a new state (I want to move to CA, he wants to move to NJ). Most recently were going back and forth trying to decide on the breed of our new kitten (he wants a Bengal, I want a Persian). We get into these heated debates and I have to constantly remind myself that neither of us is going to agree to make a big life decision unless we're both on board. So we end up with a house in California with a Savannah cat. We'll eventually get there though compromise.
Speaking of marriage and relationships in general, do you know what your love language is? I didn't until recently. D and I both took this quiz and found it to be thought provoking. Knowing the way your partner perseveres love is pretty cool.
Making macaroni and cheese without butter is a bad idea. Enough said.
That's it for this week. Now grab a button and linkup :)
I will have to check out the quiz. I'm sure you guys we come to a good choice on the new kitten! Stupid work, always getting in the way of things we would rather be doing ;)
ReplyDeleteThat's what I'm always saying: work interferes with life, so annoying!
ReplyDeleteI totally get what you're saying about holidays. One designated day can't force people to make up if there are issues. Just to keep up appearances? That doesn't fix the problem. These things take time, and sometimes they won't happen at all.
I'm super excited that we have pictures in our link-up now! Our link-up baby is growing up :-)
I read that book a while back ago and it is interesting. I am not married but I have learned that in any relationship you do need to compromise. I am a weekend blogger too. Lately I've been writing blogs, responding to e-mails, and catching up on blogs on the weekend myself.
ReplyDeleteI'm a huge fan of the love languages. My husband is acts of service and I am NOT so forcing myself to communicate that way (and realizing that that is how he shows love) was huge to me. It makes sense but I still wish he was more of a gift giver :)
ReplyDeleteI think the doing it all on the weekend is a great idea. I need to adopt a better time management policy!
ReplyDeleteI love the love language quizzes. I am acts of service and MFD is NOT.
ReplyDeleteI know compromise is how things get done but I still always want everything my way. hahahah
I'm pretty sure there's a book about the 5 Love Languages that I read (skimmed) a few years back. It's interesting because my love language is Words of Affirmation when receiving but when I want to show love it's Gift Giving...
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